Title: Embracing Change: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Growth

Change is an inevitable part of life, ushering in a multitude of emotions, challenges, and opportunities for growth. While it can be daunting to step into the unknown, embracing change is essential for personal evolution and self-discovery. It invites us to release our fears, expand our horizons, and embrace the transformative power of new beginnings. Here are a few insights from my own journey of embracing change:

Acknowledging the Unfamiliar

Embracing change begins with acknowledging the unfamiliar and accepting that discomfort often accompanies growth. It requires us to confront our fears and uncertainties and to approach new experiences with an open mind and a willingness to learn. By relinquishing the need for absolute control, we open ourselves to the possibilities that lie beyond our comfort zones.

Cultivating Resilience

Change often tests our resilience and adaptability, urging us to navigate through unforeseen challenges and obstacles. It is during these moments of adversity that we discover the strength and courage that reside within us. By fostering a resilient mindset, we learn to embrace change as an opportunity for personal and emotional growth, rather than as a barrier to our happiness and well-being.

Finding Opportunities for Self-Reflection

Amidst the whirlwind of change, it is crucial to carve out moments for self-reflection and introspection. By pausing to contemplate our values, desires, and aspirations, we gain clarity on the paths we wish to pursue. Self-reflection allows us to discern our strengths, weaknesses, and areas for personal development, guiding us towards a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world.

Embracing the Unknown with Optimism

Embracing change requires us to approach the unknown with optimism and an unwavering belief in our ability to adapt and thrive. It encourages us to view every new experience as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth, fostering a sense of curiosity and excitement for the possibilities that lie ahead. By cultivating a positive mindset, we can navigate through change with grace and resilience, knowing that every twist and turn in our journey has the potential to lead us toward greater fulfillment and purpose.

In the tapestry of life, embracing change is an essential thread that weaves together the narrative of our personal growth and transformation. By acknowledging the unfamiliar, cultivating resilience, engaging in self-reflection, and approaching the unknown with optimism, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, embracing the beauty and richness that change brings to our lives.

Peace over what I thought I wanted

For as long as I can remember l I had this idea that I wanted to be married at twenty five and have kids at thirty. I just knew my life would be “together” at twenty five. That mindset ruined my thoughts and pushed me to settle for something that I knew I shouldn’t have had. That “something” for me was marriage, but for you it could be that job, relationship or expensive purchase. Here I am twenty six and my life is “together” just exactly how it’s supposed to be.

When I got married at twenty one I knew that I was making the right decision, and I did make the right decision, at the time. So many of my family and friends questioned whether I was sure or not and I just knew that I was. One thing about me is I’m a “eff around and find out” type of person, meaning no matter what anyone tells me or tries to shelter me from, I just cant help but learn the hard way. I had no business being married BUT the idea of marriage seemed so exciting. Is it the leo in me or is it the I think I know everything.

But with life, growth and lessons learned, twenty six year old me and twenty one year old me are not the same people. If only I knew now what I knew then there would be so much stress and uncomfortableness that could have been avoided. But then not experiencing it would take away my journey. A few years ago I got a tattoo on my shoulder that says “trust your journey” and whew what a journey it has been.

Here we are single, divorced, open to new experiences, choosing peace, embracing love, growing, healing and flourishing, dealing with the things that hurt me all while trusting the journey.

peace over pain.

peace over anything that doesn’t serve me.

peace over anything that drains me.

peace over uncertainty.

peace over everything.

Am I back Blogging?

For months I have been attempting to write, and for months I have failed.

Part of it was feeling like I had nothing to write about and the other part was feeling like I had been gone for so long that no one would be interested anymore.

Honestly there have been a million things to write about but none of them seem interesting enough

Self doubt? Maybe

Overwhelmed by everyday life? Maybe

Exhausted from surviving a pandemic? Maybe

I made a statement at work about how I was never good at math but I’ve always been one to love words. Whether that was reading or writing. Both have a special place in my heart. Then I had this realization that I may not be consistent with a lot of things but I am always consistent with reading.

Writing is how I express myself and my thoughts, its almost as if I feel free. When I have hard days, I write. Now those words will never see the light of day because it's just me letting out anger.

So here’s a quick recap

-April 12th made a year that Ive moved back home. Missing Hawaii every single day.

-I have received 3 promotions in a year

-I am still learning myself, likes, dislikes, triggers, etc

-Learning to express gratitude at all times

Owning My Truth

Life is about being vulnerable right? Well here we go.

Like most women I have always known that I wanted to get married, have a family, be successful, you know live the American Dream. On June 10, 2018 my American Dream began. I married what some people would call my middle school sweetheart. Two days later we were on a flight to Texas to start our new life. I had this expectation that everything would be peaches and cream until reality punched me in the face, hard. Now some would call me crazy for making such a drastic move but I’m young and have a full life to live.

I was in a brand new city, alone and within two weeks of being here my brand new husband had to go back to work. I was happy to be able to pick up and go but I was bored and that boredom turned into sadness which then turned in to depression real quick!

I had no car, no job, no friends, no family other than my husband, I had switched schools again, my savings was slowly diminishing away and I was a new wife trying to figure things out. Depression hit me like a boulder. It was something that I never experienced before to this extent. For years I have always had my moments where I wouldn’t leave the house for days at a time or didn’t want to be bothered. I have always been the type to be a home body but this was different, very different. I found myself not wanting to do simple everyday tasks, not wanting to brush my teeth, not wanting to take my scarf off, moved from the bed to the couch then back to the bed. Not because I didn’t want to but because I literally could not. I cried almost every day but also trying to hide this feeling from my friends and family.

But if were being honest, which I am. I think I have always dealt with some sort of depression. The mildest but most noticeable form.

What most people don’t understand is that mental illness is a sickness that can’t be controlled but it is something that we can recover from. One morning I woke up basically saying “I need to do better”. I jumped out of bed and went to work out.

While thinking of everything I didn’t have I had to remind myself of all the things that I did have.

I was breathing.

I was healthy.

I had food to eat.

I had a roof over my head.

I had a family and husband that loved me.

I was so consumed in everything I didn’t have I wasn’t being appreciative of all the things I did have.

So I say all this to say, appreciate the small things in life. And although my battle is not over it is something that I work at constantly.

xoxo, fearlessly capable

Welcomeeeee

First and foremost thank you in advance for joining me on this journey. So let’s talk about how long and why it took me so long to get started. I knew that I wanted to actually do this in August and I wrote my first entry in September. I think I was scared. Wait actually I know that I was scared. Scared to tell people my weaknesses, scared to do something different. Being scared allow me to come up with the name "fearlessly capable". So the thought began in July, I was sure in August, I wrote my first entry in September, and now February here we are.

Fearless: lacking fear. bold. brave. confident

Capable: able to achieve whatever one has to do

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xoxo, fearlessly capable